Saying “No” with Love

To be selfless is to honor the greater Self. To be unselfish is to give to others first. To love the Self is to love the Good and the God in All. To give to oneself is to listen within for the Highest Good.

Sometimes we give because we feel sorry for the other. Sometimes we give because we would feel guilty for saying No. Sometimes we give because we don’t want the other to be resentful or upset. Sometimes we give because it is expected.

If we give and then feel resentment, it is not true giving. If we give and teach the other to be manipulative and dependent, it is not healthy giving. If we give and hurt ourselves, it teaches the other to feel guilty for our giving. If we give and deny ourselves, we feel less important and not enough.

When we try too hard and stay too long, we may forget how to Love with trust and freedom. When we give too much and deny ourselves, we may build covert hostility. When we over-give to others and under-love ourselves, we may expect to get back. When we do what others want rather than what we know is best, we may lose our way.

The best resource for responding to the call for Love is to listen within. Others cry, demand, bargain for help to get our accommodation. We may let our feelings of pity, fear, upset, guilt distort our responses. It is important that we simply be open and willing for whatever is for the highest and best of All.

“I am open and willing. How may I help? I want the best outcome for everyone.”

Healer’s Prayer from A Course in Miracles I am here to be truly helpful. I am here to represent the Love that sent Me. I do not have to worry abut what to do or say, because the Love that sent me will direct me. I am content to be wherever Love goes with me. I will be healed as I let Love teach me to heal.

If you cannot give with Love and gratitude in your heart, it is not true giving. If you cannot give with Peace, It is not true loving. If you cannot give with Joy for the opportunity to serve, it is not helpful. Remember that true giving is a blessing to giver and receiver.

The cost of giving is receiving. What you give is given to yourself. When we are healed or helped, we are not healed or helped alone. Say “no” with your blessings, when it will be helpful to you and the other.

“Prayer For A Loved One” Dear Heart, I will not worry, fret or be unhappy over you. I will not be anxious concerning you. I will not be afraid for you. I will not give up on you. I will not blame, criticize or condemn you. I will remember first, last and always that you are God’s child, that you have His Spirit in you. I will trust this Spirit to take care of you, to be a light to your path, to provide for your needs. I will think of you as always being surrounded by God’s loving Presence, enfolded in His protecting care, as kept safe and secure in Him. I will be patient with you. I will have confidence in you. I will stand by you in faith, and bless you in my prayers, knowing that you are growing, knowing that you are finding the help you need, the love you need, the healing you need, the financial freedom you need. I have only good feelings in my heart about you. I am willing to let you live your life as you see fit. Your way may not be my way, but I will trust the Spirit of God in you to show you the way of your highest Good. God loves you and I love you! I have confidence in you and I believe in you!! (author unknown)

Loving us all as we learn to live in love, with trust and freedom for all. Betty Lue

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