Down Time

Pre-Miracle Anxiety and Post Miracle Depression are terms I heard many years ago to describe the emotional ups and downs of “special events”, such as vacations, holidays, weddings and presentations. As we prepare ourselves for something special, there may be anticipation and anxiety. We may even want to avoid the event or get “cold feet”. As the time gets closer, there often is an energy surge which can feel exhilarating or terrifying to the psyche and physiology. When the event is complete, there may be a let down, a feeling of loss, depression or grief. After vacations, people may even get sick or fall into a lethargy or avoidance pattern.

Perhaps we need “down time” after the holidays? Or maybe we simply need to find some other source of inspiration and motivation? Or it could be that life is simply inviting to even out our energy and maintain more balance. This would be a way of making nothing special or making everything equally special.

I notice that I like to keep my motor running and my consciousness alert. I prefer to be enthusiastic every day by looking forward to those I meet and what I do. I enjoy my life choices and allow them to keep my energized and fully alive. When I overdo, overcomplicate or over emphasize the significance of something special, I may have the downside need to isolate or take time alone.

How about You? Extraverts tend to be filled with energy when they interact with others. Extraverts tend to feel depleted or deenergized from too much time alone. Introverts tend to feel depleted from too much time with people, especially when they need to perform. Introverts tend to refuel and be energized by time alone without the distraction of others.

Another piece may be that externally referring personalities get approval from others. Self-referring people tend to be more subjective or find approval within themselves. When we are self-referring, if we are praised or criticized, we pay less attention. When we are externally-referring, we feed on others attention and admiration.

When we are in settings where others see and judge us, we may be distracted by their approval and disapproval rather than simply being at peace within. This may take energy to receive and respond. When we are in settings when we keep our own counsel, we may stay present to simply enjoy what is.

What gives you energy? What depletes your energy? What brings peace? What brings anxiety?

Are these simple guideposts your keys to a happy, healthy and peaceful Life?

Loving you, Betty Lue

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