Bottled Up Feelings

Feelings are energy. Emotions are energy which is moving, motivating, inspiring us to move forward. When emotions are blocked, they may become toxic and unhealthy. When feelings or not expressed, they become distorted, irrational and unhealthy.

The problem with negative emotions is how they are used to manipulate, threaten and even demean others. Negative emotions can be used to clarify our own intention and to see what really matters to us, However, many believe dumping negative emotions on others motivates them to wake up and change. When expressing negative emotions, it is important to discern underlying motivation and desired outcome.

If you want peace, extend peace. If you want a fight, be argumentative. If you want to win, use all your powers. If you want to be fair, seek a better way to find a win/win solution.

Positive emotions are simply life energy which is seeking ways to express itself. Negative emotions are blocked energies which can be used to find and clear the blocks. When you dump negative emotions on others (puke and poop), you make the relationship toxic. Privacy and solitude are the healthiest way to clarify your own blocked energies.

When feeling “yucky”, it is valuable to withdraw and listen within. Excuse yourself and listen within. “What do I need right now?”Whatever your honest answer, give it to yourself.

When you are resentful. angry, hurt or afraid, again ask yourself “What do I really need right now?” When you listen and write, take the time to ask,” What is the real reason, I am feeling……..?” The origin of all upsets is a past similar that was mishandled, ignored or left unhealed. All upsets are past similars…often unhealed wounds from our early childhood.

When we do not take responsibility for our upsets, we lose their learning and healing value. When we project our upset onto another by blaming them, we reinforces our victim position. When we make others wrong for their offense to us, we neglect to take action to empower ourselves. When we really believe that we were wronged by another, we fail to identify our own errors.

This may leave us always feeling a victim of others’ ignorance and problems. This may set us up for a life of being at the effect of others unconsciousness. This may engender feelings of unsafety, insecurity and lack of confidence and faith. This may lead to a backlog of emotional distortion, disease and false evidence appearing real. (FEAR)

Life is meant to be an empowering experience us. Life is the opportunity to free ourselves to Be ourselves. Life is a place to face our unreal fears and failures with clarity and courage. Life is the laboratory in which we can explore and experiment to find the most effective, enjoyable and powerful way to live.

Stop dumping on others where it may feel like an attack. Let go easily and quickly of all toxic emotions and listen within for helpful solutions. Realize that you can find a better way, when you let go of all the ineffective ways. Communicate only when you are clear about your intention and desired outcome.

Loving you, Betty Lue

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